For all of you who thought the year is about to end and so are your hopes to find the men/ women of your dreams, this post is for you. Why? Because of Christmas work parties of course! Trust me, it worked for me and another Brazilian friend of mine. I am going to give you 5 tips on how not to sleep with your boss after Christmas party and still have him for life!
English people usually rely on a drink or two to loosen up a bit. If you are “The Foreigner” from your company and interested in somebody from there, this might be your chance to get that shy English person who probably totally fancies you but doesn’t have the guts to approach you.
A friend of mine told her colleague that she was interested in a particular guy from the office. This colleague told the guy about her and they started making eye contact and smiling in the office beforehand but only properly met at the office party. Apparently they both made a move (which is very rare as usually the English person just won’t make the first step). They are now married and with a beautiful baby.
Me on the other hand, had felt a few times the “shivers” from within after “my boss” approached me in the office. No, I wasn’t scared, I was actually interested in him (and his smell, which was really delicious). Nevertheless, I never really contemplated having anything with him because he was “The Boss”. Also, I have always thought that dating somebody from the office was very boring because you see each other every day and talk about the same stuff… Well, that is what I thought until the Christmas party took place anyway.
Through my own experience, I am going to give you a tip of how to get (and hopefully develop a relationship) with that cute colleague from the office:
1. Make sure “your target” has had enough drinks but not too many
Office parties usually have an open bar. Some people try not to go overboard so they don’t make a “twat of themselves” but most of the time, everybody just enjoys as much free booze as they can. Make sure the colleague or boss of your dreams has drunk plenty but has not had so much they can’t make rational conversation before you approach. It will considerably reduce the amount of refusal/ shyness from their side.
2. If the party has a “theme”, take advantage of it in order to approach the other half
At the party, after having a few too many glasses of the free wine, I decided to approach the boss. As it had a Vegas theme, there was a white chapel with an Elvis “marrying” whoever wanted to get hitched. Thankfully my boss had a few too many glasses of beer and accepted my proposal to get married.
3. Make good usage of photo booths
Photo booths are usually tight and fun to be in. Make sure you can drag your colleague there to take some “innocent” pictures (mine weren’t that innocent). That is the opportunity to find out if your target has a nice body smell or bad breath. It might sound not that important for some people but those things were important for me. Thankfully my boss had the best smell ever (everywhere) and still does to this day!
4. Pretend you are not that interested to find out the other half’s reaction
After getting “married”, I thought the boss would let it go, and pretend nothing happened. However, the boss continued following me around the dance floor! That is when I realised I wasn’t the only one interested in each other.
5. Sharing a taxi
The confirmation he/she is definitely into you is if they ask to share a taxi together. My boss asked and I accepted to go with him. I made sure I paid my half though as I didn’t want him to think I was taking advantage of him. The conversation flew well and it felt we both had sobered up a bit. The awkward moment comes when you arrive at the first house. Should you invite the other person into your house or not? Well, I did (just to be polite, I swear) but thankfully my boss was a gentleman and said: “I don’t think it’s appropriate”. Best decision ever so we wouldn’t do anything we’d regret later on.
So those are my tips/ experiences I had with my boss. The follow up to this is that even though he was interested, he would still not make a move! It took him a few more hints from me to realise that I was into him. Thankfully he finally caught on (and I didn’t give up on him for not making the first move). Eventually, I found out he also liked me way before the party but also didn’t think was right to ask a work colleague out. We are now happily married and with a gorgeous baby. And now, I am the boss, hehe!