You’ve met the man of your dreams. He is tall, blue-eyed, blonde (that was my case anyway). You two get along really well and one day, bang, he proposes. You two decide to get married but before you say ‘I do’, there is one massive fact to consider: the marriage visa. Well, that is if you are a foreigner from outside the EU marrying a British national anyway.
Who wants somebody finds a way to make things work. Who doesn’t, find excuses. This is a simple explanation for those who are in a relationship (or not) and do not know if they are being bullshitted or not. I have been bullshitted in the past and honestly if people only realised how annoying this is! You are wasting somebody else’s time you know! Thankfully I managed to find a “maker” who figured out very early into our relationship what he wanted from it (my amazing Dan wanted marriage and kids as well). It took me 32 years of my life to find that man though… I have a few friends (including guy friends) who are in relationships and who tells me the darkest excuses their partners make not to commit to a proper relationship (marriage and kids). As I have no pity when I come across the bullshitter type wasting my friend’s time, I decided to share some of advices I give them in other to help everybody on how to spot a bullshitter.
Every time I watch telly I feel absolutely amazed about the creativity of the English producers to develop TV shows and documentaries about all sorts of topics. I love watching in particular the ones about relationships. I even have ideas of my own for a tv show on the topic (for more info, contact me here). However, some producers still manage to bemuse me by reinventing the wheel and creating tv shows such as “Married at First Sight” from Channel 4.
The story concept was that two strangers were to meet up at their wedding day and then develop a relationship from there. If they wanted to break up, they would have to divorce! I have to admit, I am a very open and “shameless” person in terms of not being embarrassed for being on tv. However, the thought of marring somebody without knowing the person and if things don’t go well having to face the “D” word, scares the shit out of me. So even if I was single, I don’t think I could take part in this sort of “experiment”.