Laurence met his American beauty in the UK, but decided that it was best for him to make the move rather than having his American wife here. He is now based in Indianapolis and running the successful blog Lost in the Pond .
1. How did you two meet?
We were cast in a show together that played at the Edinburgh Fringe festival in 2006. Oddly enough we played two characters who hated each other.
2. Why instead of living in London you chose Indianapolis?
After Laurence was laid off from his job in West London, we decided that a change was needed – one that would be more cost effective. This was especially important since this happened at the height of the 2008 recession.
3. What are you finding most difficult to deal with each other’s culture?
Tarah: The thing I found most difficult was the public toilets, especially in those stalls where you have to pay to use the facilities.
Laurence: As someone who does not drive, I’d have to say the lack of effective public transportation in Indiana is something I’ve found hard to come to terms with. In England – from virtually anywhere – it was easy to just hop on a train or a bus. I miss that.
4. Besides speaking the same language, what other similarities do you find in both cultures?
The most fundamental similarity is the people. It’s probably true of all countries that the basic needs and desires of people – from making money to raising families – always remains pretty much the same.
5. What food from your other half’s country do you enjoy most? Can you or him/her cook it?
Tarah: Pork pie hands down, followed closely by scones. I happen to make a fabulous pork pie and my scones also have the husband’s approval.
Laurence: As bizarre as this answer might seem, I’d have to say Mexican food – particularly a good old chicken burrito. Mexican food is very accessible in Indiana. Sadly, I’m not much of a cook.
6. In terms of fun and things to do with each other (travelling, shows,…), do you think USA beats England?
No. Traveling around England is much easier (and less expensive) than the USA, which – while nonetheless a very exciting place to travel – is so spread out that it can hardly be seen in a lifetime.
7. Does having an English husband make it sound exotic?
Tarah: Yes. A lot of people are envious of me. And they should be, because Laurence does sound a little bit like Hugh Grant or Colin Firth and on a good day he looks like a young Paul McCartney.
Laurence: I’ve clearly not had many good days recently, then.
8. Which nation likes to drink most? Has this brought problems or solutions to your relationship?
There is definitely a bigger drinking culture in the UK than in the US, which is burdened by quite excessvie drinking laws. Thankfully this has never really effected our relationship since both of us drink in moderation.
9. What does your family think of your relationship?
Both of our families have been very supportive of the relationship, though there was perhaps a bit of doubt over the long distance thing early on. Now that we’re living in the same place, they probably just see it as a normal relationship.
10. Which of you do find most romantic, cuddly, sweet? Do you think is it anything to do with your culture or is this just you?
The British do get a reputation for being a little less touchy feely than Americans. This is probably quite accurate, since Tarah is the more cuddly out of the two of us.
11. If a friend of yours is interested in an American or an English person, what type of advice would you give?
In either case, be prepared that with such a relationship you might be separated by 3,000 miles of Atlantic Ocean. But if you can stick together through the long months apart (Skype is your best friend) then it is definitely a relationship worth pursuing.
12. In conclusion
Moving to another country as part of an expat couple is a very rewarding experience, because you’re constantly learning more about your other half – where he or she grew up, the customs they had to learn etc. Moreover, simply traveling as a couple also works on a practical level because you can support each other in ways not available to someone relocating by themselves.