Happy Valentine’s everyone! I know this is a commercial date, but being the romantic person that I am, I still enjoy celebrating it and reminding myself (and my hubby) that we are together on this date. I love to see people walking on the streets with flower bouquets and holding hands with smiles on their faces (as if saying, let’s make tonight special in every single way, if you know what I mean). I do believe that people who make an effort to please the other half on Valentine’s, tend to be happier too.
Before my English gentleman, I don’t remember having that many special Valentine’s… either my former Brazilian boyfriends did something so rubbish that I can’t even remember what we did but likewise, my former foreign boyfriends too. To be fair, my Dan spoiled me so much in our first Valentine’s and has been since, so sweet in every single one, that he has put any other previous lover to shame.
But I am not here to talk about places to go or things to give. I am here to talk about five years later since the best Valentine’s I’ve ever had. The love I was shown that day, made me really quickly see what I wanted in 5 years time. That is true, after hitting the 30s, I do admit that I was sort of treating my relationships like job interviews “where do you see yourself in 5 years time”. With my sweetest, loveliest English man, I saw a beautiful future with marriage and baby. I saw love and peace of mind. I saw laughter and true happiness. And I have to say, all my thoughts and intuitions weren’t wrong.
I recently bumped into two former English flames I had in the past. One of them was scared of commitment and workaholic. For those reasons, I had some reservations about our relationship, hence, it didn’t last. He is now a father of one who decided to make the mother of this daughter his wife as well. I was genuinely happy for him and that he managed to overcome his fears. The other one seems to be still in the market and in his own old ways. No surprise for me there either, as he never passed on my five-year “relationship plan”.
If you are a foreigner in this country and looking for love, I have to say that I have been at both ends of the spectrum with English men. If you have been overlooked on a day like today (or on other special occasions), unless if you really aren’t bothered, I think you might be with the wrong person. English men are usually reserved and not big on showing affection, but if they do love that person, I am sure they will go the extra mile for you.
So take a minute to reflect today and to think how many more Valentine’s you would’ve loved to spend with that special person. I have guaranteed my Valentine’s with my amazing English husband not just for the next five years but 500 years time! Hope you all manage to find the same. Send at least card to your loved one! When you put into words how you feel for the other, you must realise how blessed you are. I hope you all have a great day with your loved one because I sure will!